Aaishah (R.A.A.) said: I heard the Prophet (S.A.W.) saying: Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with.
There was a time, long ago, when souls drifted amongst one another. Discussing the future perhaps, in anticipation of what was to come. Pulled from the backbone of their father, Adam (A.S.), each one was asked by their Creator Allah; “Am I not your Lord?”. All souls affirmed this mighty word, and so a covenant was embedded deeply within the soil of their nature, never to be erased.
A predestined undertaking to come- an earthy journey of sorts. At birth with memories so distant, emerges a small body carrying a seed to be watered. Souls, some familiar from once upon a time, may precipitate the pouring. The Will of Al-Jabbar shall be accomplished. His presence will be completely recognized and His aid shall be sought, as the rain pours.
Whom shall make the journey back to their Lord? All.
Whom shall Allah show the straight path whether he is grateful or not? All.
And whom shall Allah Will to be guided? Whomsoever He wills.
And Allah is Al Alim, The All Knowing. He knows best about each and everyone of His slaves...
Allah, The Exalted says in the Qur’an:
وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يَقُولُ آمَنَّا بِاللَّهِ فَإِذَا أُوذِيَ فِي اللَّهِ جَعَلَ فِتْنَةَ النَّاسِ كَعَذَابِ اللَّهِ وَلَئِن جَاءَ نَصْرٌ مِّن رَّبِّكَ لَيَقُولُنَّ إِنَّا كُنَّا مَعَكُمْ ۚ أَوَلَيْسَ اللَّهُ بِأَعْلَمَ بِمَا فِي صُدُورِ الْعَالَمِينَ
“And of the people are some who say, “We believe in Allah,” but when one [of them] is harmed for [the cause of] Allah, they consider the trial of the people as [if it were] the punishment of Allah . But if victory comes from your Lord, they say, “Indeed, We were with you.” Is not Allah most knowing of what is within the breasts of all creatures?”
All praises and thanks are due to Allah, The Exalted One. The Giver of Life and the Author of Death. From Whom we all came- and to Whom we shall all indeed return. We thank Allah on every occasion…
At present, there is an estimated 7.7 billion people living here on earth. Many of us reside in dwellings where people of much former times lived. Some of their remains are part of the unseen or, Ghaib, for us, though we spend our days treading upon them, often without taking a lesson. From their ancient ruins, mankind can hear not a sound, we couldn’t bear the wails if we were permitted. What is to be greatly understood is – their time for deeds has past and we, the people of the present, are given many presents each and everyday to help us water the seeds in our chests which can lead way to the splitting, then the illumination on the divine reason we were created, and that is; to get to know our Lord Allah, and worship Him in the ways that are most fitting to His Majesty.
We underestimate our gifts just as the healthy tend to take their well-being for granted. Until dis-ease interrupts normal bodily processes and one becomes forced to deal with consequences often in a manner of haste.Umm Nadia
We are all on a journey back to Allah, The Most High. Out of His Wisdom and Compassion, He guides us all along the way. We can find His Ayat (signs) all around us- if we just take heed. The signs most often overlooked of those in abundance right around us: the people.
Allah in His infinite wisdom created us–the way we look, our personality traits, overall disposition, etc. He also chose our family members, their looks, personality traits, overall disposition etc. He chose every experience He knew we would choose to have, who we would choose to have them with, and the ultimate outcome.
Look around–everyone, your family, friends, the stranger beside you, your neighbor–theses souls were all chosen, along with you, to be a member of this present generation. Moreover, they were chosen to be a part of your experience and you a part of theirs. Our perception and ultimately our actions are opportunities for us to get to know ourselves more, and give life to our faith. These souls are presents given to us by The Most High, Allah, to worship Him in everything we do and say.
Some souls are very easy to deal with. We like them and they like us. They feed our Iman in a way that we know is divine, they help us grow by offering us good advice, and the love between us is true. These are very rare but precious bonds which we should treasure, take great care of just as a gardener tends to his garden. Most of all, we should thank Allah for righteous companionship always.
Everything was created in pairs and so, sometimes, the opposite occurs. There are times we are presented with souls whom we just naturally repel. Perhaps we knew them form a time when we were all incorporeal-and we didn’t like them then and we don’t like them now, Allahu Alim. Interactions with these souls are strained, to say the least. The natural inclination is often to get as far away from these people as possible. However, sometimes this may not be achievable. This soul could have rights over you–they could be your parent, sibling, boss at work, or even your spouse or child. Or, they could be someone not so near such as your co-worker, neighbor, or just the person checking you out in the grocery store.
But either way, they are there…in your present as your present. And so, the trial begins. It is important to remember in these very testy situations that; every emotion and every action comes up for healing. The question is…what are you learning? You must remember that you may not ascribe perfection to yourself, as you are no rival to Allah. Nor can you ascribe perfection to them as they are no rival to Allah. You cannot control their behavior or perceptions, only yours, and you must be fully accountable for your actions despite them being accountable for theirs. You must act with patience and bear harms for Allah’s sake. You must ask Allah constantly to forgive you and them and these things are only made easy for those whom Allah, The Most High, has made it easy for. May He grant us all Tawfeeq. Ameen.
In everything there is good for the believer. Those souls whom we repel the most, can teach us some of the most profound lessons about ourselves and they often also present us with a beautiful opportunity to condition our own hearts.
Allah, The Exalted says in the Qur’an:
أَلَمْ يَأْنِ لِلَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَن تَخْشَعَ قُلُوبُهُمْ لِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ وَمَا نَزَلَ مِنَ الْحَقِّ وَلَا يَكُونُوا كَالَّذِينَ أُوتُوا الْكِتَابَ مِن قَبْلُ فَطَالَ عَلَيْهِمُ الْأَمَدُ فَقَسَتْ قُلُوبُهُمْ ۖ وَكَثِيرٌ مِّنْهُمْ فَاسِقُونَ
“Has the time not come for those who have believed that their hearts should become humbly submissive at the remembrance of Allah and what has come down of the truth? And let them not be like those who were given the Scripture before, and a long period passed over them, so their hearts hardened; and many of them are defiantly disobedient.”
Oftentimes, we look at the difficult behaviors of people and want to respond in-kind. However, doing so is not best for us and our relationship with Allah;
Hudhaifah (R.A.A.) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (S.A.W.) said:”Do not let yourselves be ‘yes-men’, saying: ‘If the people are good then we will be good, and if they are wrong then we will be wrong.’Rather, make up your own minds, if the people are good then you are good, and if they are evil, then do not behave unjustly.” (Hasan)
( Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2007)
As believers, we must use every opportunity to implement guidance that Allah, The Exalted has given to us in The Qur’an. These people, all people, are presents from Allah. They are opportunities for us to work for the Paradise that He has promised the believers. When dealing with the people, especially, the difficult ones–here is some divine guidance from The Word of Our Lord, Allah, The Exalted:
Allah, The Exalted says in the Qur’an:
وَلَا تُطِعِ الْكَافِرِينَ وَالْمُنَافِقِينَ وَدَعْ أَذَاهُمْ وَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ ۚ وَكَفَىٰ بِاللَّهِ وَكِيلًا
“And do not obey the disbelievers and the hypocrites but do not harm them, and rely upon Allah . And sufficient is Allah as Disposer of affairs.”
فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ لِنتَ لَهُمْ ۖ وَلَوْ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَانفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَ ۖ فَاعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَاسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِي الْأَمْرِ ۖ فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُتَوَكِّلِينَ
“So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].”
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِكُمْ وَأَوْلَادِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوهُمْ ۚ وَإِن تَعْفُوا وَتَصْفَحُوا وَتَغْفِرُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
“O ye who believe! Truly, among your wives and your children are (some that are) enemies to yourselves: so beware of them! But if ye forgive and overlook, and cover up (their faults), verily Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.“
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُونُوا قَوَّامِينَ لِلَّهِ شُهَدَاءَ بِالْقِسْطِ ۖ وَلَا يَجْرِمَنَّكُمْ شَنَآنُ قَوْمٍ عَلَىٰ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا ۚ اعْدِلُوا هُوَ أَقْرَبُ لِلتَّقْوَىٰ ۖ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ
“O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm for Allah, witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just; that is nearer to righteousness. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what you do.”
وَمَا خَلَقْنَا السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضَ وَمَا بَيْنَهُمَا إِلَّا بِالْحَقِّ ۗ وَإِنَّ السَّاعَةَ لَآتِيَةٌ ۖ فَاصْفَحِ الصَّفْحَ الْجَمِيلَ
“And We have not created the heavens and earth and that between them except in truth. And indeed, the Hour is coming; so forgive with gracious forgiveness.”
قَوْلٌ مَّعْرُوفٌ وَمَغْفِرَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن صَدَقَةٍ يَتْبَعُهَا أَذًى ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَنِيٌّ حَلِيمٌ
“Kind speech and forgiveness are better than charity followed by injury. And Allah is Free of need and Forbearing.”
إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ أَخَوَيْكُمْ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُرْحَمُونَ
The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. And fear Allah that you may receive mercy.
الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
Who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good.
خُذِ الْعَفْوَ وَأْمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ وَأَعْرِضْ عَنِ الْجَاهِلِينَ
“Adopt forgiveness, enjoin what is right, and ignore the foolish.”
وَلَا يَأْتَلِ أُولُو الْفَضْلِ مِنكُمْ وَالسَّعَةِ أَن يُؤْتُوا أُولِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينَ وَالْمُهَاجِرِينَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ ۖ وَلْيَعْفُوا وَلْيَصْفَحُوا ۗ أَلَا تُحِبُّونَ أَن يَغْفِرَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
“And let not those of virtue among you and wealth swear not to give [aid] to their relatives and the needy and the emigrants for the cause of Allah, and let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.”
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُحِلُّوا شَعَائِرَ اللَّهِ وَلَا الشَّهْرَ الْحَرَامَ وَلَا الْهَدْيَ وَلَا الْقَلَائِدَ وَلَا آمِّينَ الْبَيْتَ الْحَرَامَ يَبْتَغُونَ فَضْلًا مِّن رَّبِّهِمْ وَرِضْوَانًا ۚ وَإِذَا حَلَلْتُمْ فَاصْطَادُوا ۚ وَلَا يَجْرِمَنَّكُمْ شَنَآنُ قَوْمٍ أَن صَدُّوكُمْ عَنِ الْمَسْجِدِ الْحَرَامِ أَن تَعْتَدُوا ۘ وَتَعَاوَنُوا عَلَى الْبِرِّ وَالتَّقْوَىٰ ۖ وَلَا تَعَاوَنُوا عَلَى الْإِثْمِ وَالْعُدْوَانِ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۖ إِنَّ اللَّهَ شَدِيدُ الْعِقَابِ –
“…And cooperate in righteousness and piety, but do not cooperate in sin and aggression. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is severe in penalty.”
May Allah, The Most High, grant us good character through our beautiful trials. Ameen yaa Rabbi.